How to Find Your Personal Style

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What is ‘personal style‘? And how to find your personal style? These are those fashion questions that get thrown around a lot as if finding “your style” is an end game!

But guess what, if you’re still seeking for your own personal style. YOU DON’T HAVE TO! You already have your own style! Okay, you might be thinking is this a click bait (lol)? So basically, this blogpost is not that typical kind of step by step guide, instead it is on how I view fashion, and how I find my style or perhaps I never did.

I don’t have and will never have A FIX STYLE as my style is ever-evolving! For me, fashion is a visual expression of myself. I’m always changing my mentality, my goals, my perspective. Hence, it’s impossible that I only STICK TO ONE FREAKING STYLE. Like everyone else, I used to fall into the trap of thinking oh I belong to “The Minimal Style”, “The Streetwear Style” or “The Boho Style” but seriously nobody on this earth is one full set! How boring would fashion be if you settle for a style? Are you okay with wearing that similar style until the end of your days? If you’re okay, congratulations, that’s your style, but definitely not me. 

Limitation do not exists. Your style is yours!

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But here are some tips and tricks I’ve picked up throughout the years to make my style my own.

  • Get outfit inspiration 

Get inspirations from anywhere and everywhere that speak directly to your soul. It can be a music video, a billboard sign, the passerby, your favourite celebrity or the social media. For me, Pinterest and Instagram are my main sources for outfit inspo.

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  • Start with basics.

Not sure how or where to start, basics are always the answer. Everyone in this world needs basic, a basic tee, a basic pair of jeans. Not to mention, basics are the foundation of your wardrobe. If you have basics you don’t need to worry that you have nothing to wear. 

Basics before trendy pieces!

  • Know your body type and what silhouette looks flattering on you.

The most important thing is to understand your body shape and know the silhouettes that are always flattering on you. Taking pictures as well as looking in the mirror will help spot the silhouettes that you should rely on.

Check this out to find out what body type you are and what works best for you.

  • How do you feel

If you feel good in it, you look good in itIt isn’t what you wearing but how you’re feeling when you wear it. If you feel amazing in it, wear it and don’t worry what others think of you. If you feel like people are judging on how you wear, probably they are thinking the same. And if you really know the person is judging you, you HAVE to show em you don’t give a damn. Continue wear it and eventually they will know you don’t give a shit on what they think and they will stop judging you. Remember what others think of you are the reflections of their own reality. 

  • Confidence is everything

Whatever you wear, feel confident in it. If you’re wearing something amazing, but you don’t feel confident in it, that outfit would look 10x worse than it could be! Thus, show people that you enjoy what you’re wearing. Fake your confidence until you have it!

  • Explore and try everything

Don’t afraid to step out from your comfort zone and try out everything. You need to know what you hate to know what you really love. P.S trying won’t break your bank tho! So have fun! Fashion supposed to be FUN!

What I Wore: Top: Topshop | Bottom: Zara | Sneakers: Adidas Superstar

 

Do Yourself A Favour, Just Walk Away

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I don’t usually fond of writing personal stuff on the internet. However, after being told (last week) on what some people thought of me (results of the backstabber who can’t stop all the drama YET). It kinds of struck me in putting em into words. And I also felt like I have finally come to the point when I can really talk about it without feeling miserable.

P.S if this is going to offend you or something, DON’T READ, and if you think I shouldn’t share anything like this, you have a bigger issue than me.

Backstabbing one,
by making up stories,
playing the role of victim when you’re (obviously) not, yes, it does make you look better than other.
Yes, it does successfully tears down one’s reputation. Yes, you get to gain ‘some’ friends.

But I’ve come to realise those friends are just not worth to be kept and they don’t worth any shed of my tears.
Those who believe, I don’t blame, as most are not even close to me nor know me, but just simply love to be judgemental by listening to gossips so what’s the point of caring their thoughts tho.

“Rumours are carried by haters, spread by fools, and accepted by idiots”

And I also come to realise,
I’m glad that I do not give a damn by giving any explanation.
You might question, are you going to let people hate you for what you’re not?
But, it’s alright,
those who know me well,
don’t need my explanation,
and those who chose to believe, they don’t need your explanation as they already made their conclusion.

P.S I’m truly thankful for those who stay with me throughout my darkest period of time.
I couldn’t imagine how bad shape i will be in, if it is not my love ones who constantly give me positive vibes.

Things I’ve Learnt
  • If they talk about others poorly with you but continue to smile in their face it’s likely they are doing the same to you.

 

  • Don’t afraid of losing friends

If someone can persuade someone to no longer be your friend, they were never really with you from the beginning. Real friends don’t do such thing. So, walk away. You don’t want to keep around someone who isn’t loyal to you in the first place.

  • Don’t care too much

It’s none of your business why someone thinks something of you. Don’t get angry or upset as the worst thing you can do to your body is to stab it with your own negative emotions.

Yeah I used to care A LOT, not that i say i don’t anymore, but I’m learning not to. As long as what you do is right, then go ahead, its your life!

“Every minute you spend frowning is 60 seconds of happiness lost”
  • There’s no point of confronting the backstabber

At first i do think there’s a need to confront and tell her how bad i felt but it won’t change anything.
Instead you might get yourself into A LOT MORE DRAMAS.
One might twist the entire story and makes you look even worse later so simply just walk away when you sense anything wrong.

Your instinct is usually right. If you need to question the vibe, you probably knew that those aren’t good vibes.
  • You don’t need to change to please the other

I used to think and be guilty over things she accused me for. I always think am I not good enough for her (sounds so cheesy). But true, when you cherish a friendship so much, you will try to do whatever, change whatever (which is seriously the most stupid thing I ever did) to please her. But real friends will never say you’re not good enough for them etc.

  • Time is the key

Yes time is the key to everything!
I never thought I could get over that matter but I did, I got over it. You will get over it too, anything you’re upset right now, you will laugh about it later. I know you don’t feel like you can get over it now but you will. Yes, the scar might left a mark but it doesn’t affect me anymore.

  • Focus on better stuff

You do you, and focus on the important things such as goals you want to achieve. Don’t waste time on nonsense, it won’t bring you any benefit. Instead, it drains all your energy.

That’s all for today. Sending all those positive vibes to you!

Kindness , It Doesn’t Cost A Damn Thing!

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Today’s topic is totally unrelated with fashion or travel. It’s just me wanting to put my thoughts on the incident which I can never get rid from my head into words.

So let’s wind back to the Saturday, 25th March 2017. After attending a charity dinner with my dad and sis, we decided to pull over our car and grab some light supper as we hardly ate during the dinner.

In the middle of our meal, an Indian man (approximately 40 years old) approached us and asked for money. Usually we won’t straight away give them money. Instead, we give them food or stuff they need. As we do not want to give them the perception of getting easy money just by begging. Besides, sometimes they ask you for money not because of meal but for the sake of cigarette or even worse, drugs (You might not agree with me as different people have different perspective)!

My dad then asked him why does he need the money. He said he need food, so my dad told him to order and he will pay. At first, he refused and just keep on asking for money but we insisted and eventually he agreed to order his meal. So here comes the interesting part, the lady boss came over and start yelling at him not to bother customer. I understand that he might always come over to your shop and bother you but do you really need to yell? Can’t you just speak nicely?

Always treat people the way you wanted to be treated.

And the worse thing the lady boss did is she gave him the food so reluctantly! This really pissed me off, and all she gave was just rice and soup (and it costs us RM5, with that value of money, we should have just brought him some better food). Besides, I remembered when he asked for a plastic bag, she yelled at him AGAIN, saying he was annoying! Tsk, tsk what the hell is this shit?! We have already said we will pay for him, so treat him like he is your customer not a beggar! Even a beggar does not deserve this kind of treatment. If I were you, I would have just offer him the food, yes even everyday doesn’t costs you a hella dollar!

That’s all for this post, I am seriously really upset why there is so many sick attitude in the society nowadays!

“Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.” -Princess Diana